Us and Them

I bought a trashy magazine earlier (more) and apparently 15% of men like girls with tattoos. 

I just don’t know what to make of this, but it annoys me that girls on here, think they need to be plastered like Radeo Suicide and Kat Von D and everyone else just to be accepted or to want to be attractive. I mean, we all have our idea of beauty, but I feel that tumblr, a site where almost 100% of guys only care if you’re topless or have a chest piece makes them think that that is the only way they will be liked in the real world. No one human being is more superior to another because of the way they look, same for girls who think ‘real men’ are supposed to only go for size 12+ because they have ‘curves’ when it’s not the same thing.

It also annoyed me that a large number of men liked that size when it came to women. Maybe because obesity is increasing so most petite women are hard to find, but I really don’t like how things like these make people feel that they are superior because they fill the ‘tumblr criteria’ for what is beautiful or not. We are all the same, when we bleed, we bleed the same. REAL men will accept you for who you are, and not just be with you for the way you look.

You shouldn’t feel the need to get any old tattoo to impress someone who is obviously not worth it if all they care about is what you look like, and no girl should put themself down just because their weight is the same as a small minority in this country right now. No 15 year old should be making a wish list of tattoos they will regret when they are older because it is part of a small phase that WILL pass when they get to 19 years old, and no girl needs to feel like they are being bullied because it does really piss me off when people say “real men like plus sizes, only a dog wants a bone” etc… because my boyfriend is a real man, and I was a bag of bones when I met him, and he has been able to live with me and all of my insecurities that have made me the size I am,  for 15 months and he is most certainly NOT a dog. Its a shame that these girls think if you’re like me, or someone who is underweight you won’t fall in love. Relationships aren’t about that. And the standards of being attractive on tumblr and the things people say within other social media are really fucking depressing and horrible when you compare it to real life.

And after spending my time thinking about this, I really hope someone can at least understand my point of view. I do like these websites, but some people really need to get a grip on what life outside the internet is and at least understand other people’s situations and experiences instead of being judgemental before knowing anything about them.

Don’t criticize what people want to do with their lives. If a girl wants to be a size 8 then let her, I’d rather have a girl work hard and exercise and DIET loads, so she feels comfortable with her weight than be surrounded by girls who are insecure about the way they look that DON’T DO ANYTHING about it and complain all the time about it! If  a girl wants to eat less, it’s her choice, just like you eat loads because you’re comfortable about the way you look and don’t want to be thin. Don’t pick on girls like that. It makes them feel worse yano. Especially those who try hard to put on weight but can’t. 

I believe that being beautiful isn’t about being curvy or skinny at all, it’s about being comfortable with the way you look. And yes I do hate how they always use Marylin Monroe as examples of being ‘curvy’ against a current hollywood star who is skinny, but may I still shove in your faces that Audrey Hepburn was a size 6 and she was one of the most beautiful movie stars alongside Marylin. 

I do find larger girls who pick on skinny girls like that to be ugly, not because of their weight, because they’re so horrible and nasty about the way other people look sometimes. You don’t have to bully people and be narrow minded about what you think people should look like because people have done the same to you. There’s this thing called respect, and you should use it regardless of if people don’t respect you. It’s selfish.